I remember holding my daughter for the first time and it was a feeling like no other, of such happiness and gratitude to Allah (SWT) for the blessing, Alhamdulillah! What I wasn’t prepared for, however, was the responsibility and challenges of being a parent. This would be the start of a journey traversing the path of parenting.
In a hadith, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) states that ‘A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them’ (Bukhari and Muslim)
It is a duty upon us to play an active role in nurturing our children by giving them the correct tarbiyyah. It is not just about teaching our children the fardh acts of ibadah and knowing the 5 pillars of Islam, but raising children who have a connection to Allah (SWT), who know the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and why he is a role model for us.
What does it mean for our children to have a connection to Allah? Do they know who Allah (SWT) is, do they know the names and attributes that He describes himself with? Do they know the purpose of why we are here? These questions are some that our children should be comfortable asking us and for us to be able to help answer too, this will help them to build a real and meaningful connection to Allah.
How do we then cultivate a love for the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)? We can ask ourselves, do our children know who he is? What was he sent to us for? And why we should look to him as a role model? These are questions that we can even reflect on ourselves and then should encourage our children to ask too.
My aim is to go through these questions related to Allah (SWT) and the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in future blog posts, so watch this space!
Building our knowledge of Allah (SWT) and the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) will help create an identity in our children where they are proud to be Muslim. Most importantly, it will help them to develop the character of a believer, one who holds morals and values according to the Quran and Sunnah and one who can express their beliefs to those around them.
We pray that Allah (SWT) gives us the ability to raise such children that will be a blessing for us and a benefit to the community and society they live in. Ameen.