وَسَارِعُوا إِلَى مَغْفِرَةٍ مِنْ رَبِّكُمْ وَجَنَّةٍ عَرْضُهَا السَّمَوَاتُ وَالْأَرْضُ أُعِدَّتْ لِلْمُتَّقِينَ الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ
“Race with one another towards forgiveness from your Lord and towards a paradise the width of which spans the Heavens and the Earth. It has been prepared for the Muttaqin (God fearing), the ones who spend in prosperity and poverty and those who control anger and forgive people”. (Surah Al-E-Imran v133-134)
In this verse Allah has mentioned 3 amazing qualities of the Muttaqin, which we all should try to adopt:
- They spend in prosperity and in poverty – Not only when they are wealthy, they spend but even when they are poor or going through hard times they spend with the same enthusiasm. Yes, there will be a difference in both the spending. A rich person can give £1000 in the path of Allah whereas a poorer person can give £10. Note, the one who gave £10 will get more reward because of making a bigger sacrifice, as it is easy for the rich person to spend how much ever he wants and the latter thinks a hundred times before putting their hands in their pockets.
- They control their anger – This is something very hard to do especially when someone is hot tempered, it’s to have control over one’s emotions and not letting Shaytaan come in between.
- They forgive others – This is something many people are not ready to do, whether it be with their parents or siblings or uncles/aunts etc. And the grudge continues for years on end. we need to learn to ‘Forgive and Forget’. Allah loves those who forgive because Allah himself loves to forgive, so anyone who adopts this same quality becomes beloved in the sight of Allah.
مَا مِنْ مُسْلِمَيْنِ يَلْتَقِيَانِ فَيَتَصَافَحَانِ إِلاَّ غُفِرَ لَهُمَا قَبْلَ أَنْ يَفْتَرِقَا
“No two Muslims meet each other and shake hands, except that Allah forgives them before they part” (Tirmidhi)
SubhanAllah, Allah shows his mercy to us in countless ways, even so forever we are ungrateful.
اللَّهُمَّ بَاعِدْ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَ خَطَايَايَ كَمَا بَاعَدْتَ بَيْنَ الْمَشْرِقِ وَالْمَغْرِبِ، اللَّهُمَّ نَقِّنِي مِنْ خَطَايَايَ، كَمَا يُنَقَّى الثَّوْبُ الْأَ بْيَضُ مِنَ الدَّنَسِ، اللَّهُمَّ اغْسِلْنِي مِنْ خَطَايَايَ بِالثَّلْجِ وَالْمَاءِ وَالْبَرَدِ
“O Allah, separate me from my sins as You have separated the East from the West. O Allah, cleanse me of my transgressions as the white garment is cleansed of stains. O Allah, wash away my sins with ice and water and frost” (Muslim)
Today, let us take a moment and think about our relationship with those around us, our family, friends, work colleagues etc. And evaluate and see where we can make improvements to better our relationships with them and in the process forgive those who may have hurt us intentionally/unintentionally. Life is too short to hold grudges. The limited time we are here in this world, let us live in peace and harmony with those around us.
Written by Umm Amaarah, mother of 2, qualified solicitor and Aalimiyyah student.